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Writer's pictureJudy Fitzgerald

Cancer Is Lonely: You Will Need a Tribe!

This weekend I watched a webinar that was released by Breastcancer.org depicting four breast cancer doctors who were also breast cancer survivors.  They were asked to provide what they felt was the most important advice to patients who were also breast cancer patients or survivors. They had advice for those who were recently diagnosed as well as how to navigate cancer survivorship.  I am going to feature one of their 15 points each day beginning today July 1st.  I hope you will follow this important blog!


Here is the link to the entire webinar:


Point Number 3:  Cancer is lonely, you will need a tribe!

When you are diagnosed with cancer, you are forced to face your own mortality. That alone is daunting but you also have to face that the road ahead will includes surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation and after all that is done; uncertainty. People will offer to help but at times you won't even know what to ask. It's a time when you will need a tribe!


Cancer, a daunting word that carries a weight as heavy as its impact. The journey through cancer can be isolating, overwhelming, and lonely. It's a battle that not only affects the physical health of an individual but also takes its toll on their emotional and mental well-being. In the midst of this storm, one essential factor emerges as a beacon of hope – the need for a tribe.


Understanding the Loneliness of Cancer


The diagnosis of cancer can feel like being adrift in an unfamiliar sea with no one in sight. The treatments, the endless hospital visits, and the uncertainty of the future can create a sense of profound isolation. It's a path that many have to walk alone, but it doesn't have to be this way.



The Importance of Building a Tribe


A tribe, a group of individuals who understand your journey, can provide the support and companionship needed to navigate the turbulent waters of cancer. They are the ones who can offer a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, and a hand to hold during the darkest times. Building a tribe is not a sign of weakness; it's a testament to your strength in seeking help when it's most needed.



Finding Your Tribe


In the digital age, finding a tribe has never been easier. Online support groups, forums, and social media platforms offer avenues to connect with others who are going through similar experiences. These virtual tribes can provide a sense of belonging and understanding that transcends physical boundaries.


The Power of Connection


Connecting with others who have walked in your shoes can be a powerful source of comfort and inspiration. Sharing stories, exchanging advice, and simply knowing that you are not alone in your struggles can uplift the spirit in ways that words cannot fully capture. Your tribe becomes your extended family, offering solace in times of distress and celebrating victories, no matter how small.



Facing the Pressures of Silence


The silence that often surrounds cancer can be deafening. Friends and family, while well-meaning, may struggle to comprehend the depth of your emotions and fears. This is where a tribe shines brightly. They don't shy away from the difficult conversations, the tears, and the raw vulnerability that comes with battling a life-threatening illness.


Embracing Vulnerability


Being vulnerable is not a weakness; it's a courageous act of opening yourself up to others. In the safety of your tribe, vulnerability is met with empathy, understanding, and unwavering support. It's in these moments of shared vulnerability that bonds are forged, and healing begins.


Nurturing Your Tribe


Just as a garden requires care and attention to flourish, so does your tribe. Nurture these relationships, offer your support in return, and create a safe space where everyone feels valued and heard. The strength of a tribe lies in its unity and its ability to weather the storms together.


You Are Not Alone


Cancer may be a lonely journey, but it doesn't have to be a solitary one. Reach out, connect, and build your tribe – a community that understands, supports, and uplifts you through every twist and turn of this challenging path. Together, we can conquer the loneliness that cancer brings and find solace in the embrace of our tribe.


Remember, you are not alone.

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